No, Not my Child…

America, Acceptance, Sexual Orientation, Religious Freedom, Nationality-The American foundation .

This is part two in the series on how America can lead in its own way, through centuries and decades of showing the world how one goes about creating the most perfect Union.

No, Not my child, he is not gay! How many people have heard that from a neighbor, family member, or co-worker? Are Gay, Lesbian, Bi-sexual, and Transgender people less than human, incapable of loving, will corrupt straight people, cannot love without attempting to change a person’s sexual orientation or some other agenda which includes molesting, corrupting, or raping children? If you believe any of that is true, then you truly are not understanding the adult population.

                Are you one of those Christians that believes that you must hate the LGBT community because they will go to hell, and take anyone who associates with them as well? So do you believe that the gay man walks the streets of America attempting to find young boys to kidnap and molest? Let us look at actual facts and not the hate-filled, bigoted words of some.

Welcome to the National Center for Victims of Crime

“The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services’ Children’s Bureau report Child Maltreatment 2010 found that 9.2% of victimized children were sexually assaulted.

Studies by David Finkelhor, Director of the Crimes Against Children Research Center, show that:

  • 1 in 5 girls and 1 in 20 boys is a victim of child sexual abuse;
  • Self-report studies show that 20% of adult females and 5-10% of adult males recall a childhood sexual assault or sexual abuse incident;
  • During a one-year period in the U.S., 16% of youth ages 14 to 17 had been sexually victimized;
  • Over the course of their lifetime, 28% of U.S. youth ages 14 to 17 had been sexually victimized;
  • Children are most vulnerable to CSA between the ages of 7 and 13.”

According to a 2003 National Institute of Justice report, 3 out of 4 adolescents who have been sexually assaulted were victimized by someone they knew well.

Bureau of Justice Statistics report shows 1.6 % (sixteen out of one thousand) of children between the ages of 12-17 were victims of rape/sexual assault.

A study conducted in 1986 found that 63% of women who had suffered sexual abuse by a family member also reported a rape or attempted rape after the age of 14. Recent studies in 2000, 2002, and 2005 have all concluded similar results.

Children who had an experience of rape or attempted rape in their adolescent years were 13.7 times more likely to experience rape or attempted rape in their first year of college.

A child who is the victim of prolonged sexual abuse usually develops low self-esteem, a feeling of worthlessness and an abnormal or distorted view of sex. The child may become withdrawn and mistrustful of adults and can become suicidal.

Children who do not live with both parents as well as children living in homes marked by parental discord, divorce, or domestic violence, have a higher risk of being sexually abused.

In the vast majority of cases where there is credible evidence that a child has been penetrated, only between 5 and 15% of those children will have genital injuries consistent with sexual abuse.

Child sexual abuse is not solely restricted to physical contact; such abuse could include noncontact abuse, such as exposure, voyeurism, and child pornography.

Compared to those with no history of sexual abuse, young males who were sexually abused were five times more likely to cause teen pregnancy, three times more likely to have multiple sexual partners and two times more likely to have unprotected sex, according to the study published online and in the June print issue of the Journal of Adolescent Health.

                Nowhere in this report does it pinpoint that any member of the LGBT was the main influence for sexual assault.

                FROM: psychology.ucdavis.edu: For the present discussion, the important point is that many child molesters cannot be meaningfully described as homosexuals, heterosexuals, or bisexuals (in the usual sense of those terms) because they are not really capable of a relationship with an adult man or woman. Instead of gender, their sexual attractions are based primarily on age. These individuals – who are often characterized as fixated – are attracted to children, not to men or women. Using the fixated-regressed distinction, Groth and Birnbaum (1978) studied 175 adult males who were convicted in Massachusetts of sexual assault against a child. None of the men had an exclusively homosexual adult sexual orientation. 83 (47%) were classified as “fixated;” 70 others (40%) were classified as regressed adult heterosexuals; the remaining 22 (13%) were classified as regressed adult bisexuals. Of the last group, Groth and Birnbaum observed that “in their adult relationships they engaged in sex on occasion with men as well as with women. However, in no case did this attraction to men exceed their preference for women…There were no men who were primarily sexually attracted to other adult males…” 

                What we have found is that the purveyors of childhood sexual abuse are more prone to having a fixation with age over the sex of the victims. When one looks to accuse a certain sexually oriented group as being a rapist of children, they have not read into the research that has been done. Other researchers have taken different approaches, but have similarly failed to find a connection between homosexuality and child molestation. This in itself, along with acceptance of difference gives credence to allowing two men, two women, or any two loving caring adults to seek and be accepted to adopt the homeless and without parents, child, that dreams of their own room, a hug, and to be loved.

                Let us now discuss the widely acclaimed court cases of Female teachers who rape teenage boys, Male political figures who sexually assault teenage females, and we can even go to the records of the House of Representatives and Senators. We have seen many being charged with rape and sexual assault, and we even have had the President of the U.S. support a man who attempted to date young women under the age of 18. Americans accept this as a common occurrence and even accept it from Presidents, and rich people who own islands. Are these people above the law, above scrutiny, and above questioning? While America spends its hatred upon two people who through a childhood of bullying, and unacceptance, to parents who disown them, to schools who treat them differently to not being hired, or finding a good home, just want to share the love that they finally realized to a young child who has no parent to love them. Where in this image do we as Americans quantify the hatred and outcasting as acceptable? When people are lost in their own misery, they attempt to create misery for others.

                America must reconcile its unacceptable hatred for the difference, and understand that what made America that formidable nation was that difference. Whether one looks at a person’s religion, or non-religion, to their sexual orientation, to their nationality, to the color of their skin, the difference is not a miscalculation, but a blessing to bring each citizen of the U.S. to a higher level of knowledge, acceptance, and love.

                When America can shed its hatred of its own citizens, and bring about equal opportunity, education, acceptance, and the pursuit of happiness, then America has moved in the direction to a better tomorrow for all of America.

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